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Wedding Ceremony without "Religious" Language

As an Interfaith Wedding Minister I accept you as you are and I am confident that the Mystery doesn't object if you wish to avoid religious language in your ceremony. This ceremony makes no mention of a deity, yet has a spiritual tone.

Welcome to the marriage of GROOM and BRIDE. We are here today to celebrate GROOM and BRIDE’s commitment to live together in marriage. We are here because, as family and friends we care about them. And we rejoice that they have found each other and fallen in love.

Who gives BRIDE to be married?
Her mother and I do.

GROOM and BRIDE, you have come to a turning point in life. Your journey has not been easy. There have been good days and hard times. Yet, today, I want you to know that the past is approved. However difficult your journey has been, it is exactly what was needed to bring you to this moment. Right now, you are accepted just as you are, and your future is open. Make of it what you will.

Now, I want to share with you a bit of poetry from James Kavanaugh:

To love is not to possess,
To own or imprison,
Nor to lose one's self in another.
Love is to join and separate, To walk alone and together, To find a laughing freedom That lonely isolation does not permit.
It is finally to be able To be who we really are No longer clinging in childish dependency Nor docilely living separate lives in silence,
It is to be perfectly one's self And perfectly joined in permanent commitment To another–and to one's inner self.
Love only endures when it moves like waves, Receding and returning gently or passionately,
Or moving lovingly like the tide In the moon's own predictable harmony,
Because finally, despite a child's scars Or an adult's deepest wounds,
They are openly free to be Who they really are–and always secretly were, In the very core of their being Where true and lasting love can alone abide.

I hope you will remember that love and commitment are built upon patience and perseverance. And the essence of love is nothing less than servanthood. Let your relationship be characterized by service to one another and to the world.

Will you join right hands.
GROOM, I ask you to look into BRIDE’s eyes and repeat after me:
I, GROOM, take you, BRIDE, to be my wife from this day forward. I will always be open and honest with you, I will respect and care for you, I will cherish our love and our friendship, and I will share my life with you always.

BRIDE, I ask you to look into GROOM’s eyes and repeat after me:
I, BRIDE, take you, GROOM, to be my husband from this day forward. I will always be open and honest with you, I will respect and care for you, I will cherish our love and our friendship, and I will share my life with you always.

A ring is an ancient symbol, beautiful and simple. A circle - for love that is given comes back around. Your ring is round like the sun that it might remind you always that your love, like the sun, brings light into your relationship.

GROOM, you may place the ring on BRIDE’s finger and repeat after me:
With this ring, I honor our commitment to one another.

GROOM and BRIDE, you have agreed to live together in marriage, and have promised your love for each other by these vows and by the giving of a ring.

Remember the words of John Lennon:
"We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it and nurture it."

By the authority vested in me, I now pronounce you to be husband and wife.
May you have many joys, and may you always see and encourage the best in each other.
May the challenges that life brings your way make your marriage grow stronger. And may you always be best friends and true servants to each other.
You may kiss the bride

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